Emotional Intelligence: The most important skill to improve your life
Emotional Intelligence: The most important skill to improve your life
Written by Dr. Marwan Musallam
Can you imagine that we live in this world in which we cannot understand each other’s feelings, and we cannot determine whether the person who meets us loves us or hates us, is he satisfied or angry with us, and we also do not feel that others can understand our emotions and the words we do not understand? When we pronounce it, life will certainly be ambiguous and strange, and this is where emotional intelligence comes into play, without which, we would be devoid of a key part of human communication.
Many studies and scientists indicate that emotional intelligence is more important than cognitive intelligence (which refers to the ability to deal with and interpret information), and experiments have also proven that people who are characterized by emotional intelligence may reach their goals and reach the highest levels even if their cognitive intelligence is not high. While people who lack emotional intelligence cannot succeed in life even if they are intelligent.
Because the impact of emotional intelligence extends to professional, social, and marital life, we cannot cover all of its effects in one article. Emotional intelligence is a wide and deep sea, a science that is taught and skills that are refined and trained.
So what is this magical intelligence that can positively impact all aspects of life? Emotional Intelligence is the ability to understand your emotions and the emotions of others and manage them in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, and overcome challenges and conflicts. Emotional intelligence also helps you build stronger relationships, succeed in study and work, and achieve your professional and personal goals. It may also help you connect with your feelings, turn intentions into actions, and make sound decisions about what matters to you in this life.
The most successful people in this life; They are not always the smartest. You may know people who are brilliant academically, but who are socially ineffective and unsuccessful in their work or in their personal relationships. This is because cognitive intelligence (IQ) in itself is not enough to achieve success in life, and while it may help you get into university - for example - your emotional intelligence will help you manage stress and emotions when your final exams come around. Fortunately, emotional intelligence and cognitive intelligence are most effective when you develop them side by side.
Emotional intelligence affects many aspects of life: professional and academic performance, physical health, mental health, relationships of all kinds, personal, professional, and social...etc.
You may find two people with the same level of education, cognitive intelligence, and experience applying for the same job, but one of them is proficient in the skill of emotional intelligence and the other is not, upon interview. You will find someone with the skill of emotional intelligence controlling his feelings and emotions, understanding the psychology of the interviewer, addressing conversations that concern the interviewer, entering into his heart and mind, while the other is rigid, confused, and answers as much as the question or less, so the first is chosen over the second because he benefited from using his emotional intelligence skills and outperformed the others. His counterpart.
You will also find in the marital relationship someone who is good at managing this magical tool in understanding and understanding the other party’s feelings, requirements, desires, likes and dislikes. He can solve marital problems smoothly and easily, unlike the person who does not have this tool, so you will find him most of the time working to fight fires in this marriage. relationship, and his mental or physical health is not reassuring.
Emotional intelligence benefits employees in managing their officials and those for whom they are responsible in a wonderful and distinctive way, and you find it rising from one position to another quickly and positively. You may encounter a colleague who has a high percentage of cognitive and technical intelligence, but you do not find any of his colleagues who wants to deal with him and work with him as a team. Because he lost this skill that enables him to work with them, and he always prefers to work alone.
Good relationships with others depend on emotional awareness and your ability to recognize and understand what people around you are feeling; Which enables you to develop social and emotional skills that will make your relationships more effective and fruitful.
You should be aware of how effectively you are using nonverbal communication; Because it is impossible to avoid sending non-verbal messages to others about how you feel and believe. In reality; Facial muscles (especially those around the eyes, nose, mouth, and forehead) help you silently convey your feelings as well as read the emotional intentions of others. Identifying the non-verbal messages you send to others plays a major role in improving your relationships with them and the extent of your influence on them.
Using humor and play to relieve stress also helps; Laughter and a sense of humor are natural anti-stress agents that reduce your stress and help you keep things in perspective. Laughter also puts your nervous system in balance, reduces stress, calms you, and makes you more compassionate.
You must also learn to see conflict as an opportunity to get closer to others; Conflicts, disagreements, and conflicts are inevitable in human relationships, and no two people can have the same needs, opinions, and expectations at all times. However; This doesn't have to be a bad thing, as resolving conflict in healthy, constructive ways can enhance trust between people. When conflict is not viewed as a threat or punishment, it promotes freedom, creativity, and safety in relationships.
in conclusion
Emotional intelligence is an essential way to improve your personal and professional life and your relationship with yourself and others. It is involved in many aspects of life that are exceptionally affected by it. If you are a husband, manager, leader, employee, father, or friend, you must learn and develop this skill in order to improve your life and the lives of others. As Fyodor Dostoevsky said: “It takes more than intelligence to act intelligently.”